Don’t make a man feel uncomfortable and other useless advice

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Don’t make a man feel uncomfortable and other useless advice Over the last month, power dynamics in relationships has been a hot topic for my clients. In particular, women have been describing what I call ‘the command’, where a man instructs a woman about what she should be doing. I know for myself, this immediately shuts down my body and my heart. And it is […]

Moving on from Unrequited Love

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For over a decade I did all the things I could think of, to attract and be with a romantic match. I did the work on myself- loads of it, deep work. I went to workshops on sensuality, I took up Tantra, I meditated, I cleared out my old relationships, I owned what was mine and looked at, and I mean really looked at it. […]

Treats and Tantrums: Is your inner child running your life?

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I like to think of myself as a mature adult. However, I know I make decisions and have reactions that are shall we say, are not the most mature option available. I have come to understand how all too frequently it is either my inner child or inner teenager actually ‘running’ parts of my life like my dating and relating, or my finances.  Play and […]

If you can’t say No, you can’t say YES!

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Do you sometimes find yourself saying Yes when your body, emotions and mind are saying No? After saying Yes, suddenly things seem inconvenient or the other person is not as grateful as you think they should be. Left unattended, the unsaid No congeals into resentment, or perhaps those cavernous feelings of overwhelm, “It’s all too hard”.  If I leave it too long, I will find […]

Complaints Department: Give yourself permission to ask for what you want

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There are times in all our relationships, personal and professional, where things build up. Unmet needs or overbearing demands congeal into resentments, and we can get overwhelmed. I have noticed that the first indication that things are building up, is that I start to complain a lot to my friends and beloved. I complain about how other people are not doing what I think they […]