Living from the Inside What is happening? I can literally feel the world inhaling. Taking in a deep breath. Savouring the quiet. When I feel this in my body, my body relaxes. I can also feel our collective anxiety. Have I felt anxious? Yes. Have I thought “You have got to be f*cking kidding me?” Yep. And yet, I feel the safety of the familiar. I know […]
For over a decade I did all the things I could think of, to attract and be with a romantic match. I did the work on myself- loads of it, deep work. I went to workshops on sensuality, I took up Tantra, I meditated, I cleared out my old relationships, I owned what was mine and looked at, and I mean really looked at it. […]
I like to think of myself as a mature adult. However, I know I make decisions and have reactions that are shall we say, are not the most mature option available. I have come to understand how all too frequently it is either my inner child or inner teenager actually ‘running’ parts of my life like my dating and relating, or my finances. Play and […]
As women we are not encouraged to be in our authentic, mature feminine self. Most of us don’t even know what that would feel like. Yet it is possible stand in our natural power, and be the adult in our own life. Being a mature feminine woman is heady stuff, and not for the faint-hearted. It takes some growing up, and being accountable. The upside […]
Do you sometimes find yourself saying Yes when your body, emotions and mind are saying No? After saying Yes, suddenly things seem inconvenient or the other person is not as grateful as you think they should be. Left unattended, the unsaid No congeals into resentment, or perhaps those cavernous feelings of overwhelm, “It’s all too hard”. If I leave it too long, I will find […]
It has taken me years to come to terms with one of the most obvious truths about intimate relationships: that there is labour in love.
We have all heard that you can’t change a person, and that loving someone is accepting them as they are. These ideals sound great in theory, but let’s face it, none of us actually practices this with others or even ourselves.
There are times in all our relationships, personal and professional, where things build up. Unmet needs or overbearing demands congeal into resentments, and we can get overwhelmed. I have noticed that the first indication that things are building up, is that I start to complain a lot to my friends and beloved. I complain about how other people are not doing what I think they […]
Don’t make a man feel uncomfortable and other useless advice Over the last month, power dynamics in relationships has been a hot topic for my clients. In particular, women have been describing what I call ‘the command’, where a man instructs a woman about what she should be doing. I know for myself, this immediately shuts down my body and my heart. And it is […]